There is nothing abnormal or unusual about us losing our temper every now and then.
Life brings about many situations that cause us to become irritable and frustrated. This can lead to a difficulty in controlling our emotions.
When rage overwhelms us the muscles tighten up, heartbeat speeds up, breath shortens and speeds up and the templates begin to pound.
What Causes Us to Lose Our Tempers?
Certain things can be to blame for causing us to lose our temper. Some of the more prevalent ones are stress, unrealistic expectations, anxiety, financial responsibilities, demanding workloads, social responsibilities, hectic lifestyle and family matters.
If you are constantly bullied or humiliated then you are likely to have a reaction, at some point.
It is common for parents to lose their temper with their children especially when they are disobeyed. Doing poorly at school or taking advantage of Mom and Dads kindness can also cause a parental reaction.
Some people have a much shorter temper than others and can easily blow up in an instant. If you have such a problem that your social life is suffering or often become violent then you need to seek professional help.
There are many ways to go about treating this type of problem. Some of the more popular methods are psychotherapy, self control training, anger management and communication skills training.
Gaining these types of skills will allow you to learn where your boundaries are, learn how to control negative emotions and find ways of channeling anger more efficiently.
Tips to Help Control Your Temper
- Learn deep breathing and muscle relaxation techniques and practice them when you feel you are becoming irritable or angry.
- Always remain objective in the face of disagreements and debates. Recognize when you are taking things personally and when your emotions are disproportionate. By being aware of these things you can remain distanced from the situation and not get caught up in irrational emotions.
- Wait before you react. If you are angry, remove yourself from the situation if possible, or simply pause and count to 10 slowly. Only make decisions and react once you have cooled down and have had time to rationally reflect on the situation.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. Getting angry over things you cannot control such as traffic jams and broken appliances serves no purpose and it will simply put you in an irritable mood. Keep your eye on the bigger picture and use your energy to be productive and think of possible solutions.
- Don’t fall into the trap of always blaming others. Take responsibility for your own behaviors and learn to accept that we all make mistakes.
- Learn the art of patience. People will always make mistakes, misunderstandings are common, and there will always be things that you cannot control.
- Find your sense of humor. Many situations that cause us anger can be turned around and viewed from humorous point of view.
- Learn to face your emotions and deal with them as they come about. Talk out your emotions with someone close to you and really look into the possible underlying causes of your anger.
- Engage in regular physical activities such as sports, aerobics, brisk walking, running or dancing. Exercise is a great way to work out any stress and unresolved anger.
- Manage your stress levels by having a massage, listening to music or reading a book.
There are many other things you can do on your own to help you to deal better in a bad situation. It is important to try and be as calm as possible and not react too quickly during a heated moment.
Learn what it feels like just before you lose your temper and, in the future, count from 1 to 10 in order to calm yourself.
Keeping a journal can work wonders. Every time you find something that triggers your temper take note of it so that you can be aware of it in the future.
If you feel yourself getting into a heated situation then stop and think about what you are about to say. Sometimes it is better just to keep our mouth shut when things begin to get ugly.
Going for a short walk can also be very beneficial. Walk away and get some fresh air while you consider your problems.
There are a number of herbal and homeopathic ingredients which have been shown to greatly help with the control and management of anger outbursts, fits, and rage. Nux vom. is one such ingredient and it is commonly recommended to people who are prone to irritability, and anger and those with impatient tempers.
Another useful homeopathic ingredient is Chamomilla, which is particularly effective when the emotional reaction seems out of proportion to the situation or event. This ingredient is wonderfully calming and can be used to *soothe anger and irritability as well as any underlying anxiety.*
Lastly, Lycopodium can be used to address uncontrollable anger outbursts and is especially useful for those who find it difficult to express their emotions.
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